Choose to Forgive

Choose to Forgive
November 29, 2016

One of my favorite quotes by Nelson Mandela says: “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”

I stumbled on this quote shortly after his death, and I felt as if he were in the room speaking directly to me. You see, at that time I was still holding on to one, just one, noxious miniscule drink of poison. I wanted to hold on to this particular one, this one was personal. However, it hurt, it felt heavy, and it was holding me down. Thankfully my soul was ready to let go when I read this quote. Thank you, Mandela.

Are you holding on to negative emotions? How about withholding forgiveness? Is there anybody in your life that you have yet to forgive—a co-worker or ex-boss? Do you harbor resentment toward your spouse or bitterness toward a family member?

If you are, identify where that feeling resides in your body. Is it in your gut, in your heart, in your mind or in your chest? Is that area congested, tight or constricted? What physical pain are you holding on to?  What do you have to let go of?

I ask these questions because it is difficult to honor ourselves when we hold these sensations within. For example, have you ever devoured a box of cookies or drank more than you should have? I know I have. Overindulging is a way to deal with our emotional hurt. It distracts us from the real cause of pain. What emotional pain are you holding on to? What do you have to let go of?

I know forgiving is not easy, and in some cases it doesn’t even come naturally. But what if we could alleviate one hurt by forgiving someone that has done us wrong? What if forgiveness can help us attain better emotional and physical health?

When we forgive, we let go of the hurt; it’s that simple. I invite you to choose to forgive today.

Take the first step by choosing what or whom you are going to forgive.

Some of you might be thinking, “There is no way I can forgive that (or her or him).”

I understand. I really do. But, before you dismiss the power of forgiveness, remember that our mind is like a magnifying glass—whatever you focus on will definitely take precedence. Do you want to focus on resentment or forgiveness? Do you want to cling to the poison or let go of the hurt? Honestly, which one do you believe will make you feel happier?

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Posted in Mindset by Mari Pizarro