Complaining is like Gossip – Learn 5 Tips To Nip It!

September 14, 2017

Complaining is like gossip – a certain amount of it is inevitable, but when it becomes a hobby, it turns into a destructive force that negatively affects your mood, your health, and that of everyone around you. “Research shows that exposure to 30 minutes or more of negativity…actually peels away neurons in the brain’s hippocampus. That’s the part of your brain you need for problem solving.”* So, as the saying goes, “If you can’t or won’t make it right, stop complaining about it.”

Do you identify with one of these complainers?

Frustrated Carlos: Chat with Carlos, and you get a dose of Monday morning news about everything that’s wrong with the world, government, media, society, his spouse, his neighbor, traffic, the weather, his bonus, etc. He’s always disgusted and can’t wait to unload all of life’s tribulations on you. You’ve probably come to dread the depressing, unconstructive environment he creates by dwelling on the flaws of others. Superior Joanna: While she stands at the supermarket checkout line, she mumbles to other customers about the slowness and incompetence of the cashier. She feels a sense of superiority. A victim of her circumstances, there’s nothing she can do unless she reports the situation to the store manager (which she probably won’t). So she complains. Does that help her or those

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July 25, 2017

“Those who make the worst use of their time are the first to complain of its brevity.”Jean De La Bruyere

They’re all around you: The former teammate from another division shows up to a 3 p.m. meeting fit, looking great and energized; the colleague who attended that 401K investment talk who rejiggered their portfolio to great results; the boss who, despite seeming to have a heavier workload than anybody on the floor, reads a book or two about team performance strategies per week. You want to look and feel better. You want an investment portfolio worth bragging about. Heck, you just want some time to read a book! These are often the moments when you decide that it’s time to make some time for yourself and that you’re going to improve something in your life. You’ve been considering it for months, but more importantly, you deserve it! Then something happens. Maybe something else demands your attention or you simply begin to doubt your choice. Just like that, your resolve starts to dissipate like the sand in an hourglass. Time becomes the enemy as it slips away. There are so many reasons to leave things the way they are, and what happens if your plans for change blow up in your face? Do you have time to make a mistake? Despite knowing the change you want is a good idea, you’re able to get at least 51% of you to remain paralyzed with

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June 20, 2017

Determined leaders are the strongest and most successful. But where does their determination, their seemingly natural fortitude come from? Does one have to be born with it or is it a trait that can be cultivated? For me, determination is the combination of a leader’s motivation and passion to achieve a noble goal coupled with a calculated plan for success. A great plan isn’t likely to be well executed without passion, and a passionate leader without a plan is like a captain without a ship. The most determined leaders are the ones with emotional strength that is not easily shaken. You can see this in business, sports or even certain people fighting illness. Determination is not about the absence of fear, but rather the ability to be brave in the face of fear. It’s fantastic if you’re brimming with natural determination. It has probably served you well in life. But even if you’re someone who tends to live with anxiety and worries too much about the risks, there are things you can do to help build your internal determination. Developing determination is the process of building your mental muscle the way an athlete builds their physical muscles. It requires practice, energy and consistency along with the belief that you’re becoming a stronger leader. It’s ironic,

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October 11, 2016

picture1 Dear Mr. Trump, I need to let you know why I am voting against you.  It’s not personal. I don’t have to like you, endorse you, or cheer for you.  However, I must do my part to make sure you don’t make it to the White House. Here’s why:

  • You do things I teach my young adult sons NOT to do. I teach them to respect others, especially women, because they actually come from women themselves…  My heart will break if they ever become as nasty as you have, specifically towards women.
  • My soul is aching for any young men (including my own) who believe they can get away with being offensive, ill-mannered, or disrespectful and still be in the White House running this beautiful country.
  • You speak about women (or spoke, it doesn’t matter) in a way that I pray none of the men my daughters marry ever will.
  • I also don’t want my daughters or any woman thinking that men can talk like that. Not even in a “locker room.” It’s painful and sad.
  • You deflect the truth by attacking others instead of taking responsibility. Taking responsibility is one of our family values. It’s not easy sometime

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October 4, 2016

I got a real accountability lesson a few months ago.  I was walking to my car from the supermarket on a very hot afternoon when I saw a group of people congregated around a parked car. They seemed upset and I got curious. As I approached the scene, I saw that there was a dog locked in this very hot car. The mini crowd was getting louder and I heard them say “it’s been more than 30 minutes and this dog will soon pass out in this heat” but nobody did anything, including me.  In the next 10 seconds, a young man shattered one of the car’s windows with a trash can and opened the door.  Everything was going to be all right. Why am I sharing this? Because this story illustrates the concept of taking personal accountability and whenever I share it with others, the point is clear.  Only one person in that parking lot embraced, without hesitation, the concept of personal accountability. It was a simple act that required little thinking yet no one embraced it. The scene stayed in my mind for months and I knew I had to write about it. I have been hearing a lot of buzz about accountability in the workplace, in networking groups and in social conversations.  The question that keeps coming up is; do we really want to be held accountable for the consequences of our actions, or inactions? I don’t know where this young man’s motivation to break the window came f

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