Your Perception Dictates Your Reality

September 19, 2017

Have you ever had one of those situations where you and somebody else experienced the same thing, maybe a concert or dinner, but walked away with not only completely different opinions about how they were, but with a conflicting set of “facts”? How can two people’s perception of things be so different? And, what if you’re the one who is taking in things and processing them in a skewed manner? Our emotional state is often a result of how we perceive situations happening around us. Have you ever asked yourself these questions and reached these conclusions after you faced a negative situation? Why did she do that to me? I don’t deserve that. Why does this keep happening to me? It’s not fair. Why is it so hard to be understood? Nobody understands me. Why are all the good men taken? I’m going to die alone. Often, we ask ourselves these questions to ease our way into victim mode. We assess the situation with emotional blinders and see ourselves as stuck in one place or helpless because of who we perceive ourselves to be in the moment. Maybe you think you’re too nice, too young or

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September 14, 2017

Complaining is like gossip – a certain amount of it is inevitable, but when it becomes a hobby, it turns into a destructive force that negatively affects your mood, your health, and that of everyone around you. “Research shows that exposure to 30 minutes or more of negativity…actually peels away neurons in the brain’s hippocampus. That’s the part of your brain you need for problem solving.”* So, as the saying goes, “If you can’t or won’t make it right, stop complaining about it.”

Do you identify with one of these complainers?

Frustrated Carlos: Chat with Carlos, and you get a dose of Monday morning news about everything that’s wrong with the world, government, media, society, his spouse, his neighbor, traffic, the weather, his bonus, etc. He’s always disgusted and can’t wait to unload all of life’s tribulations on you. You’ve probably come to dread the depressing, unconstructive environment he creates by dwelling on the flaws of others. Superior Joanna: While she stands at the supermarket checkout line, she mumbles to other customers about the slowness and incompetence of the cashier. She feels a sense of superiority. A victim of her circumstances, there’s nothing she can do unless she reports the situation to the store manager (which she probably won’t). So she complains. Does that help her or those

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August 22, 2017

This is not an original title, it’s been used before. Change the story, Change your life. The first time I saw this in print I wasn’t too impressed and asked myself,  “What story are we talking about here? What’s the story?” That was more than eight years ago, before following my passion to understand the power of our thoughts over our reality. Everything is perception, everything. Perception is like beauty; it’s in the eye of the beholder. By learning to change the stories we tell ourselves about what’s happening around us, we can create positive emotions, which in turn improve our wellbeing. Think about someone who feels like a victim (hopefully, not you). This person is blaming others or their circumstances for every problem in their life. Their misery is the fault of the government, their boss, the economy, their spouse and children or anything else except themselves. But, if they can pause for just a moment and recognize what is happening around them – mostly out of their control – is just their perception, that can be a game changer.

Albert says A-ha!

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August 9, 2017

The other day I asked a client to think about a leader she admired and after a few seconds of silence she said: “His name is Bob. He is a poised and self-confident managing director who rarely stumbles or makes mistakes,” and then she reflected for a minute before adding, “He is kind of unapproachable, he never loses an argument and is very cerebral.” There’s no doubt confidence is a key leadership trait, but a genuine leader is self-aware despite not having all the answers and still empowers others to seek them out. They are aware of their shortcomings and secure a diverse team who will compliment instead of copy their style. The leader who is continuously learning, understands their own purpose and the overall company’s direction has the winning edge in the long term. Given the right level of technical competence, intelligence and experience, self-awareness might be one of the most important components of great leadership. It gives those who possess it an advantage to create growth within themselves and to grow others.

Three Keys To Improve Your Self-Awareness:

Know Your Purp

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July 25, 2017

“Those who make the worst use of their time are the first to complain of its brevity.”Jean De La Bruyere

They’re all around you: The former teammate from another division shows up to a 3 p.m. meeting fit, looking great and energized; the colleague who attended that 401K investment talk who rejiggered their portfolio to great results; the boss who, despite seeming to have a heavier workload than anybody on the floor, reads a book or two about team performance strategies per week. You want to look and feel better. You want an investment portfolio worth bragging about. Heck, you just want some time to read a book! These are often the moments when you decide that it’s time to make some time for yourself and that you’re going to improve something in your life. You’ve been considering it for months, but more importantly, you deserve it! Then something happens. Maybe something else demands your attention or you simply begin to doubt your choice. Just like that, your resolve starts to dissipate like the sand in an hourglass. Time becomes the enemy as it slips away. There are so many reasons to leave things the way they are, and what happens if your plans for change blow up in your face? Do you have time to make a mistake? Despite knowing the change you want is a good idea, you’re able to get at least 51% of you to remain paralyzed with

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June 20, 2017

Determined leaders are the strongest and most successful. But where does their determination, their seemingly natural fortitude come from? Does one have to be born with it or is it a trait that can be cultivated? For me, determination is the combination of a leader’s motivation and passion to achieve a noble goal coupled with a calculated plan for success. A great plan isn’t likely to be well executed without passion, and a passionate leader without a plan is like a captain without a ship. The most determined leaders are the ones with emotional strength that is not easily shaken. You can see this in business, sports or even certain people fighting illness. Determination is not about the absence of fear, but rather the ability to be brave in the face of fear. It’s fantastic if you’re brimming with natural determination. It has probably served you well in life. But even if you’re someone who tends to live with anxiety and worries too much about the risks, there are things you can do to help build your internal determination. Developing determination is the process of building your mental muscle the way an athlete builds their physical muscles. It requires practice, energy and consistency along with the belief that you’re becoming a stronger leader. It’s ironic,

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February 23, 2017

“A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination, and hard work.”—Colin Powell My coaching practice exposes me to a wide variety of people from multiple cultures every day. Generally speaking, they fall into three basic categories: dreamers, risk-takers, and those unmotivated to take any action at all. Dreamers tend to well… dream. They dream about ideas, places, cultures, adventure, and new beginnings. But when obstacles arise that challenge their ability to turn their dreams into reality, they abandon them and move on to the next thing. Maybe someday… Risk-takers don’t stop; they keep going. For them, a dream is a goal with a deadline. They take risks knowing that things will get difficult, and when they do, they tell their “inner tough” to get going! The unmotivated often take some action, move forward, and then stall—usually out of fear. Content with the status quo, they believe that dreams are just dreams that will never come to fruition. Pessimists, they resist change with a vengeance. Risk-taker, dreamer, unmotivated bystander? Which one are YOU? We were all born to dream. If you are a risk-taker, you constantly look for ways to push that dream up the path to success even when others question you, make fun of you, or “feel bad because you are wor

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January 25, 2017

Complaining is like gossip – a certain amount of it is inevitable, but when it becomes a hobby, it turns into a destructive force that negatively affects your mood, your health, and that of everyone around you.

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