A Simple Guide to Taming Your Anger Before It Controls You

October 20, 2017

“Don’t make me angry, Mr. McGhee. You wouldn’t like me when I’m angry.” – Dr. David Banner, opening credits of The Incredible Hulk It’s pretty hard to inspire others if you are walking around with a belly full of anger. Experiencing unjust treatment, hearing criticism, or just not getting what you want when you want it triggers sensations that feel like anger.  Psychologists even recognize boredom as a mild version of anger represented as dissatisfaction with what is happening at a given moment. Anger can be healthy at times but resorting to anger to deal with everyday situation is not the smartest answer. Anger is reactive and often shows up when we have not learned how to understand and deal with our emotions. Anger is not an involuntary emotion although it can feel that way sometimes, but you can regulate it. Instead of getting into uncomfortable situations, making others feel humiliated or angry right back at you, or getting to the point you say something you end up regretting, we can identify what triggers the angry response and figure out how to deal with it. Easier said than done. I know.

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September 26, 2017

Is My Poop Normal? Yes, this is serious stuff! You probably know that your poop can reflect your physical, and sometimes even emotional, health. You may get constipation or have diarrhea when you eat something that “doesn’t agree with you,” or when you’re super-nervous or stressed about a situation. What about fiber and water? If you’re not getting enough, it’ll probably show in your poop. And what about those pesky but so important gut microbes? If they’re not happy, it’ll probably show in your poop. Here’s a question for you: Did you know there is an “official” standard for poop? I mean a chart that’s university-created? One that is used to help diagnose conditions like irritable bowel syndrome (IBS)? Meet the Bristol Stool Scale The Bristol Stool Scale was created at the prestigious University of Bristol in the UK back in 1997. You can see the chart here. The scale breaks down type of poop into seven different categories ranging from type 1 which is very constipated, to type 7 which is diarrhea:

  1. Separate hard lumps (very constipated).
  2. Lumpy and sausage-like (slightly constipated).
  3. Sausage shaped with cracks in the surface (normal)
  4. Smooth, soft sausage (normal).

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September 19, 2017

Have you ever had one of those situations where you and somebody else experienced the same thing, maybe a concert or dinner, but walked away with not only completely different opinions about how they were, but with a conflicting set of “facts”? How can two people’s perception of things be so different? And, what if you’re the one who is taking in things and processing them in a skewed manner? Our emotional state is often a result of how we perceive situations happening around us. Have you ever asked yourself these questions and reached these conclusions after you faced a negative situation? Why did she do that to me? I don’t deserve that. Why does this keep happening to me? It’s not fair. Why is it so hard to be understood? Nobody understands me. Why are all the good men taken? I’m going to die alone. Often, we ask ourselves these questions to ease our way into victim mode. We assess the situation with emotional blinders and see ourselves as stuck in one place or helpless because of who we perceive ourselves to be in the moment. Maybe you think you’re too nice, too young or

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September 14, 2017

Complaining is like gossip – a certain amount of it is inevitable, but when it becomes a hobby, it turns into a destructive force that negatively affects your mood, your health, and that of everyone around you. “Research shows that exposure to 30 minutes or more of negativity…actually peels away neurons in the brain’s hippocampus. That’s the part of your brain you need for problem solving.”* So, as the saying goes, “If you can’t or won’t make it right, stop complaining about it.”

Do you identify with one of these complainers?

Frustrated Carlos: Chat with Carlos, and you get a dose of Monday morning news about everything that’s wrong with the world, government, media, society, his spouse, his neighbor, traffic, the weather, his bonus, etc. He’s always disgusted and can’t wait to unload all of life’s tribulations on you. You’ve probably come to dread the depressing, unconstructive environment he creates by dwelling on the flaws of others. Superior Joanna: While she stands at the supermarket checkout line, she mumbles to other customers about the slowness and incompetence of the cashier. She feels a sense of superiority. A victim of her circumstances, there’s nothing she can do unless she reports the situation to the store manager (which she probably won’t). So she complains. Does that help her or those

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August 22, 2017

This is not an original title, it’s been used before. Change the story, Change your life. The first time I saw this in print I wasn’t too impressed and asked myself,  “What story are we talking about here? What’s the story?” That was more than eight years ago, before following my passion to understand the power of our thoughts over our reality. Everything is perception, everything. Perception is like beauty; it’s in the eye of the beholder. By learning to change the stories we tell ourselves about what’s happening around us, we can create positive emotions, which in turn improve our wellbeing. Think about someone who feels like a victim (hopefully, not you). This person is blaming others or their circumstances for every problem in their life. Their misery is the fault of the government, their boss, the economy, their spouse and children or anything else except themselves. But, if they can pause for just a moment and recognize what is happening around them – mostly out of their control – is just their perception, that can be a game changer.

Albert says A-ha!

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July 25, 2017

“Those who make the worst use of their time are the first to complain of its brevity.”Jean De La Bruyere

They’re all around you: The former teammate from another division shows up to a 3 p.m. meeting fit, looking great and energized; the colleague who attended that 401K investment talk who rejiggered their portfolio to great results; the boss who, despite seeming to have a heavier workload than anybody on the floor, reads a book or two about team performance strategies per week. You want to look and feel better. You want an investment portfolio worth bragging about. Heck, you just want some time to read a book! These are often the moments when you decide that it’s time to make some time for yourself and that you’re going to improve something in your life. You’ve been considering it for months, but more importantly, you deserve it! Then something happens. Maybe something else demands your attention or you simply begin to doubt your choice. Just like that, your resolve starts to dissipate like the sand in an hourglass. Time becomes the enemy as it slips away. There are so many reasons to leave things the way they are, and what happens if your plans for change blow up in your face? Do you have time to make a mistake? Despite knowing the change you want is a good idea, you’re able to get at least 51% of you to remain paralyzed with

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February 13, 2014

When I was younger this topic made me very uncomfortable. I believed that by “serving others” while neglecting my own needs, desires, opinions and ideas I would gain love, appreciation, respect and admiration. I was setting me up for big disappointment. Admirable people like Mother Theresa, Martin Luther King, Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Jesus, the Dalai Lama (and many others) share several personality traits like charisma, assertiveness, courage, conviction, passion, resiliency, etc. They all knew exactly what they wanted and did not settle for less. They never compromised their opinions and rarely experienced insecurities or self-doubt. They all respected themselves. What’s the opposite? The absence of self-love. When we feel indecisive, full of doubt or we are self-critical we exhaust ourselves and diminish the possibility of moving towards our goals, desires and passions. Even worse, when self-love is totally lacking we can end up depressed, constantly sad or in a bad mood, never happy with whom we are and we may even exhibit self-loathing. I am inviting you to take a few minutes to think about this. Where are you in the self love spectrum? Do you have a story to share? Do you disagree? Please leave me your comment and let’s start this conversation! Mari Pizarro

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